So, your marriage ended. Now What?

I just wanted to check in and explain why I have been so quiet lately. It has been a big year with so many new things happening. But now I’m back and ready to get into it again.

As some of you may have noticed I had seemingly dropped off the planet for a while now. I had wanted to do a post to explain my absence but could never think of the right thing to say. My life and my circumstances have changed so much over the past several months I felt like I was not worthy of writing this blog because I am no longer in the same place I was when I started. I felt that continuing and not being honest made me a phony and so it was easier to slip away. But as a wise friend told me, you are still the same person with the same experiences. You still know what you know, and you are not the first person to ever go through this.

Living and working with someone 24/7 can put a lot of stress and strain on any relationship and when you add to that the pressures of kids and regular everyday life it can take a toll on even the most well managed and healthy relationship.

So yeah, my life has changed. I am no longer Amy Reid who lives in Crowther. I have a farm but it’s more on the smaller scale now. I still work in the Agriculture sector and that’s what this blog has always been about. Varying sectors of Ag and the amazing women who work in them. And I still want to shine a light on those awesome ladies.

I hope that after reading this you will see that life does go on after the break down of a marriage. It does not define who you are or what you are capable of. I no longer live on my old farm, but my cows and I headed off on an adventure and who knows what awaits us.

Yes, my marriage didn’t work out. Many don’t. We are still very amicable and up until my move had worked together. After all, we had built a successful farm and business and that has not changed. But it came time for me to move on to bigger and better things, so they say. I have thought many times about getting back in and writing again but a kick in the butt was just what I needed. We all have that friend that keeps us honest, I actually have a couple. And now I am getting back on track to make this thing bigger and better. And who knows where that path might take us. Our lives are dynamic and ever changing and we need to embrace that change can be a good thing.

We are both happy and moving on with life. The kids are away at Uni and Boarding School so have adjusted to the change well. Our separation was not recent, we had been living apart for more than a year and it had just become time for one of us to move on.

But my former life and job do not define who I am. I have moved on to a small block, have a few animals running around and have a new job. Still working in Ag and dealing daily with farmers in Merchandise Sales.

I am very aware I am not the first person to have gone through this and after a short time of self-pity and feeling sorry for myself I have come out the other side realising that while my life has significantly changed, that it doesn’t have to be a change for the worse.

So that’s me. I’m still Amy that lived and worked on a farm. The experience I have being on a farm for 20 years hasn’t changed. What I know hasn’t changed. My passion for women in Agriculture hasn’t changed. Only my physical location has changed and I’m okay with that.

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